Sex not love or what do you think?

It is common these days, in this generation to hear this phrase, -- I want to make love to you, let’s make love, can we make love to night, we made love all through the night: when they mean to say we had sex.

There is different between love making and having sex, the phrase love making is only applicable to those who are legally married, and sex among those who are not married, especially the youth and those married men and women who involved in extra marital affairs, are only satisfying their sexual feelings and desire, not love making.

Sex is not love, but it play’s a part in the realm of love when it is done at the right time, (when married)

Love is beyond emotional feelings and active sex, love in it nature is beyond human reason, love is divine in it nature, and it is not a single action but a collections of multiple actions.

Now let me ask you a question, if you believed that sex is love, why then do rape an innocent girl? Is this love?

Why is it that after having sex with the girl you claimed you loved, you go around telling other guys mockingly that you have cross her, and she cried like a baby, is this the attribute of love?

Is it love that makes a man to visit the harlot center? Or is it love that makes man to leave his wife at home and pay his money to a call girl to sleep with?

A 60 years old man is sexually active with a girl of 15 years old, and you call these love, when he, himself will not allowed his own daughter to do the same thing.

What will you say about those who are involved in commercial sex hawkers; I mean those who practice prostitution and other related matters, will you say love is the foundation of their deeds and action? This is one question you must answer to ascertain the truth of the matters.

From your candid  opinion, will say it is love that makes a woman sleeps around with men and get paid, or a man who sleeps around with all kinds of woman and get paid, is this the act of love?

What about a boss of a company who sleeps around with his female staffs, as a guarantee for to keep their job, will you call this love or what?

It is a known truth, that sex is not love, as being spread or made believed by some individual, books, and magazines.

Love in it totality is far- far beyond the segment of love. Like the heavens is far above the earth, so is the disparity between love and sex.

Well, you may have your own opinion on the issue, but the truth is, sex is not love and can never be love.

 

Relationship

Relationship

When you say relationship, what come to the mind of my people is purely the interaction between  a man and a woman, the romantic affairs, the body and soul connection, The normal routine of love and affections, feelings, dating etc

Relationship is more than than that, greater and more important than emotional feelings and attachment of the body and soul.

Relationship is the atom of existence and interactions among humans, and without it man is in isolation and living in darkness.

Relationship plays a vital role in our day to day living. It is the bedrock of existence for any given person, people, group. organizations, states, country etc, for existing and co- existing as a form of interacting, relating in our day to day, doings, dealings.

It is of importance to know and understand the place  and value of relationship in our world.

For this is the only foundation for survival for any given entity .

Without it man and the cooperate world is in darkness,  no lone ranger can survive of it own accord.

We need someone, we need partnership, we need fellowship, we need inspiration to survive and be better in life.

No single tree can make a forest, so it is for every one, no matter the field you belong to , you need a relationship, either directly or indirectly to succeed, to become  better in productivity and make and impact in your world, for this is the real definition of relationship in it wide scope

Understanding how to keep your marriage

How to keep your marriage
First and foremost, we must understand the basic foundation, or the prerequisite to marriage.
Marriage is not a thing that just happens over night, or a thing that can happen over night, it has to start from some where, from the basis, from the foundation.
The first step to marriage is a relationship, without a relationship, there can be no successful marriage, relationship is the process that has to do with meeting each other, knowing each other, acquitting with each other, the development of likeness for each other, which leads to dating, and in most cases, it leads to courtship, which is the bedrock for marriages.
This aspect of relationship has to do with knowing who and what is your spouse made off, what I mean in essence is that, this is the avenue to know the deeper things about who you are dealing with, the kind of food he or she likes, the kind of clothes he or she likes, some few thing about his or her past life, his or her strong and weak point, general knowledge about life in general, social or spiritual background, and many more.
Why courtship? Courtship expose you to the real challenges head, makes you understand the man or woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, at least 60 percent.
At this point, is where many marriages are made, or the foundation of many marriages destroyed.
When you begin to play pranks at this stage, then there is bound to be problem; when spouse begin to tell each other lies, then there is bound to be problem, when spouse are not faithful to each other at these stage, then when they get married, there is going to be the problem of unfaithfulness, which is a disaster in any relationship.
Having establish this fact, which is a pointer to the real thing (marriage),
Then, what is marriage? Marriage is a union between two party, a man and a woman to become one; in other words, it is the total agreement between a man and a woman to spend the rest of their life together, in life, until life do them apart.

The most important element in marriage, is not how you got married, whether it is traditionally, according to the custom of the people involved, or through court registry, or better still, through church wedding, or the money spent, and the people who witness the occasion; that is not the issue in marriage matters, to be frank, they are in relevant matters.
The most important thing after wedding is how to keep the fire of the union alive and burning till the end of time.
The first step in keeping your marriage is that, the man must understand that his wife is not a figure head, but a helper and assistance to him.
He must love her the way he loves himself.
He must not lord over her, but must seek her opinion in every issue pertaining to the family matters.
She must love and respect her husband with all her heart.
She must compliment the effort of the husband.
Both of they must be faithful to each other on every occasion.
There must be a collective decision making.

They must learn to settle their differences at once without a third party.
They must learn to forgive each other's wrong doings.
They must trust each other completely.
They must be fond of each other at all time.
Above all, they must pray together, and get close to God, the initiator and the foundation of all marriages.


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A Wicked tradition

 A Wicked tradition

 

When a woman dies, it is believed and agreed that it is her time to die; the husband will not be accused of having a hand in the death of the woman, the man will not face any problem, he will be comforted, cared for, loved, and greatly helped.

 

When a man dies, especially if he is less than 55 years of age before his death, the wife is in for a big trouble, she will be accused of killing the husband, while she will be subjected to the custom of the people known as tradition.

In some places the woman will be forcefully willed to the younger brother of the deceased, especially if the man in question is very rich, in order not to allowed the woman to have total control over the man’s investment and properties, this action is taken to allowed the family of the man to have access to the properties and investment, which are supposed to be the inheritance of the man’s children and wife

If the woman refused to be willed to the younger brother of the deceased, she automatically looses the inheritance to the family of the dead.

You know what that means, the woman and the children are deprived of their right and inheritance.

In some other places the hair of the woman is shaved, while she will be kept in a place of isolation for some days.

The most dehumanizing of all is when the water used in bathing the corpse is forcefully given to the woman to drink, to prove her innocence in the death of the man.

 

Tradition they call it, does it has to be cruel? Does it have to be one sided? Does it have to be the man is always right, why does it favor one gender and not the others?

I wonder what kind of tradition is this. ----- That does not preach harmony, oneness, equality, respect, which are the elements that makes up love.

Why would any one be involved, practice, preach, and encourage a tradition that is devilish and slavery.

 

Seeing this injustice, I ask my self, why are we not following the law of love instituted by God, that we should love others as we love ourselves.

 

What should we call these? They called it tradition, but I said NO, because it is not worth emulating, rather I called it a wicked tradition.

 

 

money

                                                                        Money

Money the most sought after on the planet, money the most powerful tool on the earth, money the most means of exchange for goods and services.

Money a means of lively hood, money, what every one labor’s and thirst for.

Money a solution provider, money the power to buy, money the dream of every human, money the action that speaks louder than voice.

 

Money the reason two friends are at each other’s throat, money the reason two brothers are at war over inheritance, money the reason for kidnapping, money the reason for theft, money the reason for drugs trafficking, money the reason for illegal arms dealing, money the reason behind assassins operations, money the reason for the aborted slave trade, money the reason for killing one’s child for ritual purposes.

Money a dividing factor among business partners.

 

Money is good, money is great, money makes one beautiful, but the love of money is dangerous.

 

  

love or lust

                                                

A million dollar question,

 Many People all over the world today, who claimed and say they are in love are not telling the truth, most of them don’t even know the meaning of love, they just believe when a woman or a man is good on bed, then love has taken place, while others believed, that when you sight a pretty girl or a handsome guy who smiles at you, then love has taken place, that is not true, that is not love.

Many men and women who are in a relationship are not in love but in lust, a product of infatuation.

You can’t just see a man or a woman for the first time, and say I’m in love, because personality is not love, the structures of the human body is not love, handsomeness is not love, beauty is not love, but a product of deception.

Love is a gradual process, love is a learning process, an avenue to understand each other, which takes time to build and come to maturity.

Love is divine in nature, love is spiritual, and not something you can touch with your hand, love is not a mere saying, I love you, love is beyond the words of the mouth, the winking of the eyes, the touching of the body, passionate kissing, sex gimmicks, dinner dates, spending money on gift and precious items.

Love is more than going to the Havana beach during summer holidays, love is more than                    a commitment, love is more than a marriage vows and the exchange of rings.

 

Are you in a relationship with a woman because she is pretty, rich, good looking, good stature, big breast, moderate or big ass? Pointed nose, long hair, blue eyes, a super star, or what have you, or are you in love with a guy because he is tall, handsome, muscular, rich, can satisfy you on bed, got the money to spend around, and what have you, and if all these are the reason you are in a relationship? Then you are lost in lust.

 

The character of who you are dealing with is the most important element in a relationship, character speak of who you are, not the words of the mouth.

Like a parable in my place, that states, character is the real beauty of an individual, not the facial looks. Facial looks is deceptive, and does not give a true assessment of an individual. Characters are the life wire of an individual that determines the level of your maturity and the way you respond to situations at a given time.

 

Many relationship and marriages have suffered pains and anguish due to lust that was mistakenly taken for love, and when you build on the foundation of lust, you should expect the unacceptable.

 

Love is divine and spiritual, but lust is selfish and destructive.

   

 

The other side of a woman.

A woman is a unique being, created with passion and love, having a wonderful and a beautiful qualities, and she having a great emotional attachment to her surroundings, and an undiluted trust which she posses, that makes her a great factor for change and stability in the society.

Her supportive role in whatever she is involved has caused a great change and achievement, because she is involved whole heartedly, and putting her wonderful qualities into use brings about change and transformation for all.

A woman needs a man to manage her well and properly, a man to love her, care for her and give her a sense of belonging without deception, because they trust and hope like a fool.

When a woman loves a man, she believes all he says, even though he is not faithful, truthful and sincere, but when a man misuse his opportunities, and purposely break the heart of a woman, it brings out the other side of a woman, which can only be tamed by love, care, openness and sincerity.

 This other side of a woman is known as the animalistic nature of a woman that has been programmed for destructions when the time arises.

Just like the story of Nancy, a pretty damsel, who fell in love stupidly with Dan for 13 years, with 9 abortions, and a written agreement ,that states, that whatsoever the outcome of the relationship, they are destined for each other, and with the option of death to any one who derails from the agreement.

After 13 years of relationship, and 9 abortions, Dan abandoned and left her, while he married another lady.

Nancy never said any thing, but every other men that came her way paid for the unknown sin, men became detestable in her sight, men became a rotten garbage, that is meant for the dust bin in her sight, and she sought for every available opportunity to deal with men, while she became a thorn in the flesh of men.

Solomon was abandoned on the day of their wedding day, duke was financially sabotaged, John was blackmailed, and tom was set up and sent to prison.

After 3 years, Nancy hired an assassin which killed Dan and his two children, while the wife was spared.

 

A woman can be desperately wicked, when not properly managed, when her heart is bleeding with pains and anguish, with the picture of denial in her heart.

The other side of a woman is deadly and corrosive, beyond mercy and forgiveness.

Note, it is what you invest in a woman that will determine what you will reap.