Understanding how to keep your marriage

How to keep your marriage
First and foremost, we must understand the basic foundation, or the prerequisite to marriage.
Marriage is not a thing that just happens over night, or a thing that can happen over night, it has to start from some where, from the basis, from the foundation.
The first step to marriage is a relationship, without a relationship, there can be no successful marriage, relationship is the process that has to do with meeting each other, knowing each other, acquitting with each other, the development of likeness for each other, which leads to dating, and in most cases, it leads to courtship, which is the bedrock for marriages.
This aspect of relationship has to do with knowing who and what is your spouse made off, what I mean in essence is that, this is the avenue to know the deeper things about who you are dealing with, the kind of food he or she likes, the kind of clothes he or she likes, some few thing about his or her past life, his or her strong and weak point, general knowledge about life in general, social or spiritual background, and many more.
Why courtship? Courtship expose you to the real challenges head, makes you understand the man or woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, at least 60 percent.
At this point, is where many marriages are made, or the foundation of many marriages destroyed.
When you begin to play pranks at this stage, then there is bound to be problem; when spouse begin to tell each other lies, then there is bound to be problem, when spouse are not faithful to each other at these stage, then when they get married, there is going to be the problem of unfaithfulness, which is a disaster in any relationship.
Having establish this fact, which is a pointer to the real thing (marriage),
Then, what is marriage? Marriage is a union between two party, a man and a woman to become one; in other words, it is the total agreement between a man and a woman to spend the rest of their life together, in life, until life do them apart.

The most important element in marriage, is not how you got married, whether it is traditionally, according to the custom of the people involved, or through court registry, or better still, through church wedding, or the money spent, and the people who witness the occasion; that is not the issue in marriage matters, to be frank, they are in relevant matters.
The most important thing after wedding is how to keep the fire of the union alive and burning till the end of time.
The first step in keeping your marriage is that, the man must understand that his wife is not a figure head, but a helper and assistance to him.
He must love her the way he loves himself.
He must not lord over her, but must seek her opinion in every issue pertaining to the family matters.
She must love and respect her husband with all her heart.
She must compliment the effort of the husband.
Both of they must be faithful to each other on every occasion.
There must be a collective decision making.

They must learn to settle their differences at once without a third party.
They must learn to forgive each other's wrong doings.
They must trust each other completely.
They must be fond of each other at all time.
Above all, they must pray together, and get close to God, the initiator and the foundation of all marriages.


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